My mom's baby sister. She's 50, partied hard in the '70s and '80s and majored in music, never married, has a boyfriend but I'm not sure one man is enough for her. Apparently she was so excited to tell me the following that after she e-mailed it to my personal address, she forwarded it to my work account. Just what I needed to see this morning. All typos are hers:
You know, Katie, I went to [Local Irish Pub] by myself on Saturday night. A U2 cover band was playing. Mixed crowd, nice crowd, lots of 30somethings. Danced most of the night with a 36 year old guy, Irish/Italian Catholic (he thought I was 42 -- I did not correct [Auntie is having a hard time being 50]), Is Associate Athletic Director at [Area Institute of Higher Education]. I was fascinated because he is high school buddies with [Famous Local Director] and I've been trying to get information to work for his company for over a year now. Anyway, this guy [name redacted] was fun, darling, Catholic without being wierd male Cathollic. They are out there, and he was just one of the nice, nice guys I met on Saturday night. Funny, a single guy goes to a bar and men and women talk to him. A single gal goes to a bar, and women avoid them, only men talk to them.
You gotta get out there. It's this wierd [Major City] culture, I think, that I don't have a single friend (married or otherwise) who will go out on a weekend night (forget weekdays!). [Longtime Friend Who Counsels War Veterans] agrees, it's part of the culture here to stay at home. But, if I'm out there meeting 30 somethings when I'm just out to get out of the house for a couple of hours and listen to some music, there's certainly plenty of potential for you.
Is it me, or is this message all about meeting men? It seems well-intentioned, but I wish she didn't have this idea in her head that my life needs fixing b/c it's not what she'd do if she were 30 again. I'm busy with work and school. I'm seeing someone sort of seriously. (Admittedly, I haven't really told my family other than my mom and my sister.) My free time will change once I move and start the next quarter with two classes instead of three. It's stressful at times but I like my life. Sure, I'd like more friends but the few close ones I have, I wouldn't trade for anything--and in time more will come. I'm kind of "over" the loud bar scene, too.
Can I just reply, "Thank you," period?